Sociology and Amethyst

Although I am not a professional sociologist, my time on Second Life has allowed me to view and experience a myriad of social relationships.  The strengths and weaknesses of individuals’ personalities and how they interact with others is nothing short of amazing. 

As I observe and interact, there are certain traits that tend to appear. I don’t like to generalize, but you can’t help but notice the doom and gloom types that are so used to being miserable they make every excuse to stay miserable. Then there are the serial daters/marrying types. They are looking for love, only to end up searching over and over again.  There are the manipulators that call you “hun” or blow smoke up your ass and give you a false sense of security or family while screwing you over. Those players that act as bad-ass mother fuckers and intimidate everyone around them.  Bloodlines tends to pull in plenty of these.

There are also dear, sweet, friends that have your best interest at heart.  I’ve been blessed with so many of them. Over the years I’ve had so many contacts and connections that the feelings overwhelm me. I’d hate to miss anyone so I’ll make a separate blog entry for them another day. 

One of the most interesting, complex, and unusual relationships I have had on SL was with my first queen, Amethyst Warden.  The impact this woman has had on my life is so surprising to me. She’s tough. She certainly holds her own and doesn’t back down. She dealt with a tremendous amount of stress and drama throughout the years she was queen. She balanced it all it seemed so effortlessly. She had a tight group of friends, and many secrets which made her all the more interesting. She had magnetism about her that everyone was just drawn to her. Different than anyone else I had ever known. Quite frankly, she was the shit.  I wasn’t interested in being her friend just to work my way up the royals’ chain like some others in the clan. I never messaged her unless it was for clan business because she was so busy and I never wanted to bother her.  She was just a born leader.  People wanted to follow her because of her integrity and attitude. Fair, but stern, she didn’t like to waste her time with silly crap though she had to most days. She guided me even when she didn’t know she was.  Her encouraging nature allowed me to soar and break free from the limitations in my own mind.  I viewed her as a rock star, a mentor, a teacher, and most definitely a queen. I also blame her for my various indiscretions on SL, but that is another story. ;)