It is no secret now that our beloved Queen Amethyst is stepping down. The expansion of her family requires all her time and energy. It saddens me but I understand her choice. Change is inevitable after all.
With this change a shift in titles is needed. Crown Princess Daisy will take her place as queen managing the clan. I have been asked to take her place as Crown Princess. Ever since I was asked I have been beating myself up over it. Telling myself I am not good enough, I am not ready, I will fail. Wanting Candi or Audrey to come back and do it since they are so much better than I.
Which brings me to my point. Today as I was doing homework for a college course I am taking, the professor shared some links which brought me to this Bill Cosby video. It is his keynote speech for the Carnegie Mellon class of 2007. It is just what I needed to hear. Funny how things come to you in the oddest ways. Either way, I got the message. Here is the link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BY-WFfajWq8
"Don't talk yourself into not being you."
Cosby's main story began about five minutes in and is one anyone can relate to. All of us have talked ourselves into thinking we don't belong or battle with self-confidence, etc. His point — which his true story brought out — is that we must not talk ourselves out of being who we really are. Cosby touched on the idea that being nervous ("but I was nervous") or other such excuses that we often use get in the way of us bringing our true self to the job (or school, etc.). People do not care about your excuses, they care only about seeing your authentic self. As Cosby said "people came to see you" not some version of what you think they want or need. "I don't care what you do," said Cosby, "when you are good, then you bring you out." "It's not for you to stand around and measure yourself according to diplomas and degrees. You are you — and you are not to put yourself beneath anybody!"
I am not Daisy or Amethyst or Audrey or Candi. I am Freya. I bring my own strengths and weaknesses to the title just as they have to theirs. I'm not perfect but I am fair and have the clan's best interest at heart. A virtual title doesn't make me who I am- I do. I have a great support system with my husband and my friends. Cannot wait to see what this next chapter in SL brings!
